The loneliness of the Christian results from his walk with God in an ungodly world, a walk that must often take him away from the fellowship of good Christians as well as from that of the unregenerate world.

His God-given instincts cry out for companionship with others of his kind, others who can understand his longings, his aspirations, his absorptions in the love of Christ; and because with his circle of friends there are few who share his inner experiences, he’s forced to walk alone.

The unsatisfied longings of the prophets for human understanding caused them to cry out in their complaint, and even our Lord himself suffered in the  same way.

The man (or woman) who has passed on into the divine Presence in actual inner experience will not find many who understand him. He finds few who care to talk about that which is the supreme object of his interest, so he is often silent and preoccupied in the midst of noisy religious shoptalk. For this he earns the reputation of being dull and over-serious, so he is avoided, and the gulf between him and society widens.

He searches for the friends upon whose garments he can detect the smell of myrrh and aloes and cassia out of the ivory palaces, and finding few or none, he, like Mary of old, keeps these things in his heart.

It is this very loneliness that throws him back upon God. His inability to find human companionship drives him to seek in God what he can find nowhere else.

Born Gay? by Dr John Tay

I understand that this is a sensitive subject but I choose to post this as I believe in God’s created nature. I personally think that there are many gays out there who are talented and brilliant in what they do. Yet, their lifestyle choice is not beneficial for them in the long run as it runs against our created nature. Please note that I do not hate or discriminate, but from a position of concern just as a friend who will advise a friend if he/she is gorging himself/herself with food that will eventually cause life-threatening health problems. This summary is posted with the permission from Dr John S H Tay. You can purchase this book from

Born Gay? Book Cover
Born Gay? Book Cover

BORN  GAY? Examining the Scientific Evidence for Homosexuality

By Dr John S H Tay (2010) ISBN 13:978-981-4270-17-5 ISBN 10:981-4270-17-2


 (Summary by Dr John Tay distributed with permission from the Publishers)

This book is a review of important scientific papers published over the last 20 years concerning the roles of genes and environment on homosexuality.  The book examines the statement “I am Born Gay”.  The resounding conclusion is that the role of genes is far less important than the role of the environmental factors.  No properly qualified geneticist today will ever say or agree with the statement, “I am born Gay, and I cannot change”.  Indeed, no form of human behaviour is ever solely inherited.  Genes produce proteins, and not behaviour.  Behaviour is much more complex than a single protein.

For a condition or trait to be inherited, without any influence of the environment, the “heritability” must be 100%, for instance, colour blindness.  The heritability of human intelligence is about 75% whereas the heritability of male homosexuality is only 26% (in the key paper based on the Australian Twin Registry, page xxviii in the book, this figure of 26% was not even statistically significant).  In other words, environmental factors account for 74% of male homosexuality. Environmental factors are clearly much more important than genetic factors.

The scientific community knows these facts for many years, but public opinion is moving in opposite direction, because of the lies perpetuated by the media and the gay activists.  When a lie is repeated often enough, many people will believe this lie. The book does not mention anything about God, the Bible or morality.  It focuses on the scientific papers and explains the basic concepts. The intention of the book is that key leaders in the nation, especially the politicians, members of the parliament, community leaders, principals, teachers and others, should know the truth and the facts.

A key thesis of the book is that if there is a massive disregard of truth in the society, that society will collapse.  Examples are given in chapter two.  Those who raise the question “What is truth?” are people who have rejected truth.  Truth is easily understood and is objective.  Clear examples are given in chapter two.

Dr John S H Tay

11 October 2012


Dr John S H Tay studied Medicine in the University of Sydney, Australia, under the Colombo Plan Scholarship (1961- 1966). He graduated with a First Class Honours, Distinction over the whole Medical Course and the University Medal. For his postgraduate studies, he trained as a Paediatrician and graduated with the Master of Medicine (Paediatrics) from the University of Singapore. He is a Fellow of the Royal Australasian College of Physicians, Royal College of Physicians (Edinburgh) and the Academy of Medicine (Singapore).


He was an academic staff in the Department of Paediatrics, National University of Singapore for 22 years (1973-1995) and for the last seven years (1988-1995), he was a Professor and the Head of the Department of Paediatrics as well as the Head of the Division of Human Genetics. He holds two doctorates (by theses) in Human Genetics: Doctor of Medicine (thesis: Dermatoglyphics in Paediatrics), and Doctor of Philosophy (thesis: The Genetic Structure of Singapore), both awarded by the National University of Singapore. He has published a few hundred research papers, many of which were in the field of Human Genetics. He is married to Ivy, with two grownup children and eight grandchildren.